Experience, Expression, Feel, Personal and Career Development, Thoughts, wisdom

Darism: February 4th 2020

I lived with this principle:

Life Is All About Choices


Michael is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”

He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Michael was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Michael and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?”

Michael replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or … you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood.”

Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or… I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it.

Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or… I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.

“Yes, it is,” Michael said.

“Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live your life.”

I reflected on what Michael said. Soon hereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.

Several years later, I heard that Michael was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Michael was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back. I saw Michael about six months after the accident.

When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?”

I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.

“The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon-to-be born daughter,” Michael replied.

“Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or… I could choose to die. I chose to live.”

“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked.

Michael continued, “… the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read ‘he’s a dead man’. I knew I needed to take action.”

“What did you do?” I asked.

“Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Michael.

“She asked if I was allergic to anything.

‘Yes, I replied.’

The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Gravity’.”

Over their laughter, I told them, “I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead!”


Michael lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything. After all, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.


Cultural Leadership, Experience, Feel, Personal and Career Development, Thoughts, wisdom

ការគិតរបស់ខ្ញុំ ថ្ងៃពុធ ៥ កើត ខែមាឃ ឆ្នាំកុរឯកស័ក ពុទ្ធសករាជ ២៥៦៣ត្រូវនឹងថ្ងៃទី២៩ ខែមករា ឆ្នាំ២០២០មករា 29, 2020, Darism Today

Concepts to learn to employ in daily life:

·   Get the “buy-ins” = agreement/support from your lower subordinates

·   Making sure everyone is on the same page, on the same boat

·   Being in control of all the information like in the palm of your hands

·   Do not let things sleep. Do not let things hang. Do what is needed and necessary RIGHT NOW!

·   Always manage expectations- avoid unpleasant surprises. Inform people what to expect in advance. Do not let them find out from other sources that is not from you.

·   Attention to details

·   Do not make e-mail wars. Verbal or in-person conversation gives opportunities to the counterparts to give reactions/feedbacks. Recap by writing what have been discussed, agreed or even agreed to disagree on. Request for addition/edits if something is misunderstood or not missing in the recaps

·   Agree to disagree. Must always have a conclusion.

·   Systematic records and feedbacks. Incidence report, coaching/counseling forms.

·   Use 21st Technology to make our lives easier. Do not do double job.

·   Be a role model. Leadership by example

·   Avoid burn out for yourself and others.

Experience, Expression, Feel, Things of interests, Thoughts, wisdom

ការគិតរបស់ខ្ញំុថ្ងៃនេះ ថ្ងៃ ១៣ រោច ខែផល្គុន ព.ស.២៥៦៣ ឆ្នាំកុរ ឯកស័ក ត្រូវ​នឹង ថ្ងៃ អង្គារ ទី ២ ខែ មេសា ឆ្នាំ ២០១៩ Daraism on January 21st, 2020

សូមស្វាគមន៍មកបញ្ចេញការគិតលើកទីមួយរបស់ខ្ញុំនៅក្នុង គ ស ឆ្នាំ ២០២០

ខ្ញុំសូមចែករំលែកអត្ថបទជាភាសាអង់គ្លេសខាងក្រោមដែល បង្ហាញថា មនុស្សគ្រប់គ្នាទាំងអស់សុទ្ធតែជាអ្នកលក់ដ៏មានប្រសិទ្ធភាព ជូនសហគ្រាសរបស់យើង មិនមែនគ្រាន់តែជាតួនាទីប្រធាន រឺផ្នែកលក់ រឺផ្នែកផ្សព្វផ្សាយទីផ្សារនុះទេ។ យើងជាទូត ជាអ្នកនាំសារដ៏សំខាន់របស់សហគ្រាសយើង។ បើយើងទាំងអស់គ្នាមិនមែនជាអ្នកនិយាយល្អ ពីក្រុមហ៑ុនខ្លួន និងជាអ្នកនាំសារទៅកាន់អ្នកដ៏ទៃ ឪទិញផលិតផល សេវាកម្មរបស់ក្រុមហ៊ុនរបស់យើងទេ តើអ្នករំពឹងថាអ្នកណាដែលអាចធ្វើបានល្អជាងអ្នក? តើអ្នកនឹងទទួលបានប្រាក់បៀវត្សន៍ ប្រចាំខែមកពីណា? សូមគិតថាការលក់ ការនិយាយល្អ ពីសហគ្រាសរបស់អ្នកទៅកាន់មនុស្សជាវិញខ្លួន តួនាទីសំខាន់របស់យើងគ្រប់ៗគ្នា។​


A great point to share with you. We are and must be our organisations’ best sales reps and ambassadors. If not, who is?

Cultural Leadership, Experience, Expression, Thoughts, wisdom

ការរំលឹកអំពីការនាំសារវិជ្ជមាននៃរូបភាពនិងវប្បធម៌កម្ពុជា ព.ស.២៥៦៣ ឆ្នាំកុរ ឯកស័ក ត្រូវ​នឹង គ.ស ឆ្នាំ ២០១៩ Phare international tours, a year in review of 2019


គោរព ស្រលាញ់​​ ថែទាំ ករសាង សាមគ្គី ​ Respect, Love, Protect, Build, Solidarity

So Phare so good! 

On a very fine day of May 2019, I was standing starstruk in front of The Paramount Theater in Boston, Massachusetts, United States of America. This is Phare’s Third USA Tours after “Khmer Metal” in 2015 and “Khmer Village in 2016”. The Paramount Theater stands tall and proud in the middle of the city center. Images of the now long-lost iconic arts venues in my native Cambodia in the golden years of the 50s and 60s came flashing in my vision. My wishful thinking was that we would bring them back to their glory. I stared at the entrance of this magnificent theater for a good 5 minutes. 

A big poster in front of the theater reads: 


Come see 

The World on stage

Artists from: 


UK                     POLAND USA       RUSSIA 

I smiled from ear to ear to see my beloved, once one of the oldest civilizations, now-a small, war-torn, traumatized yet culturally rich nation, was standing equally on the same stage with some of the world’s most advanced nations. This is all thanks to our ancestors for leaving us with heritages, Identity and traditions of Cambodian arts and culture.

យើងកំពុងឈរដោយមោទនភាពនិងស្មើភាពគ្នានៅលើឆាកអន្តរជាតិ ដោយសារសិល្បៈនិងវប្បធម៌របស់យើង។

Thanks to our artists, cultural ambassadors and countless local and international partners, we are helping shape the image of our country to the outside world in a positive light. 

យើងកំពុងឈរដោយមោទនភាពនិងស្មើភាពគ្នានៅលើឆាក អន្តរជាតិ ដោយសារសិល្បៈនិងវប្បធម៌របស់យើង។

This thought brought me to an encounter I had with a Canadian researcher that I recently met thanks to the introduction by our good friend and partner, Cambodian Living Arts. When being posed with a question: “What Cirque du Soleil means to you and other Canadians?” His eyes sparkled, he answered with a smile that: “Cirque du Soleil is our Celine Dion. They are both our Canadian pride.” Hist enthusiastic response transferred the energy to me and made me returned to him with a big smile. In the back of my head I was saying to myself: “I know that Cambodian culture and Phare artists are also my Cambodian pride, the same way he felt about Cirque du Soleil. I know that this is our competitive advantage to help us be relevant and present in global conversations.” 

I then set myself on a mission to document a year in review of 2019 of Phare’s international tours to look at what Phare artists did that touched lives and hearts of hundreds of people in Cambodia and around the world. I wanted to look at where and how our cultural ambassadors are making people see us as an energetic, dynamic, youthful, peaceful and hopeful people of a nation that are reviving and revitalizing our rich cultural heritages. 

In addition to more than 400 performances per year in Siem Reap’s Phare Circus iconic red bigtop and students’ performances in the school campus of Phare Ponleu Selpak in Battambang city, our artists also performed for Cambodians and audiences from around the world in private events in temples, in 5 stars hotels and at some of the most beautiful settings including, Song Saa Private Island, Sofitel Angkor  Phokeethra, Phum Baitang Resort, Amansara Resort and Park Hyatt, just to name a few. 

Where did Phare artists bring smiles to people’s faces this year?  

We started the year with a Bang! Our newest production “White Gold” had her European Premiere with Biennale des Arts de Cirque in Marseillesin February, before continuing to FOR SUR MER – THEATRE DE FOS. We finished off the tours with TRITH SAINT LEGER. https://pharecircus.org/phare-circus-goes-to-france/

May was a busy touring month, “Sokha” went to Ansan Street Arts Festival and continued on to  ASEAN Culture House in Busan and Suwon Theater Festival in The Republic of Korea. 

Meanwhile “See You Yesterday” had her USA Premiere Tours in ArtsEmersons in Boston thanks to Global Arts Corps. 

We are in May still, a shorter version of “Eclipse” & “Same Same But Different” performed at the Flipside festival at the Esplanade Theaters by the bay in Singapore. 

It was a treat for our Aussie friends, “Eclipse” was presented in Darwin Arts Festival in Australia in August. 

Our friends in Korea loved “Sokha” so much that they have invited again the performance to Gwangju Fringe Festival in October of this year. 

With the success in Marseilles, “White Gold” is set to tours French National Theaters for nearly 2 months in many cities in winter next year. Watch out this space for announcements of cities and tour dates. 

It has been a year full of memories and contributions by artists and partners who help make Siem Reap a destination visitors must stay longer to explore food, arts, culture, authentic experiences with our “Come for Angkor Wat but #StayLongerFor……” campaign. 

Are you planning for a perfect holiday? 

Come for UNESCO World Heritage for Humanity, Angkor Wat, Stay longer for Food, arts, culture and authentic Cambodian experiences. 

Thanks for helping Phare inspire with amazing vibe and energy and transforming the lives of Cambodian Youth. 

Experience, Expression, This and that here and there, Thoughts, wisdom

តើអ្នកជាអ្នកណា ជាអ្វី? Who are you?


តើអ្នកសប្បាយនិងរីករាយលើខ្លួនឯង និងមនុស្សជុំវិញខ្លួន ដែលអ្នករាប់អានទេ?


តើអ្នកជានរណា? អ្នកមានលក្ខណៈអ្វីខ្លះ? តើអ្នកកំពុងប្រើលក្ខណៈទាំងនោះជាប្រយោជន៍ប្រសើជូនខ្លួនអ្នកទេ?
តើអ្នកបានសាកល្បងធ្វើខ្លួនអ្នកជាសិល្បៈដ៏អស្ចារ្យមួយទេ? អ្នកគួរតែសាកល្បងមើល … វា សប្បាយណាស់ ពេលដែលយើងធ្វើវា។

Cultural Leadership, Personal and Career Development, Places of Interest, Thoughts, Travel, wisdom

អ្វីដែលយើងបានរៀនពីមជ្ឈមណ្ឌលដំណើរផ្សងព្រេងនិងសិក្សា ចំបក់ហោះ។What we have learned from Jambok Hoas Adventure and Learning Center

People First, Keep Learning, Keeping Developing:

ការពារ ការស្តារឡើងវិញ និង ផ្តល់ការស្រលាញ់ ជំនួយ និងការគាំទ្រ Protect. Restore. Fund.

In April 2019, Phare arstists and team members went to a learning expedition to a UNESCO World Heritage Site, Prasat Sambo Preikuk and spend quality time together for our biggest staff event of the year for team building and learning. We stayed for 2 nights in Preah Vihear Province in Jambok Hoas Adventure Learning Center.

It was a great experience and we really did learn about from both the temple and the activities at the teambuilding learning center. We learn about our roles as Cambodian artists in the society today looking to the past heritage and pride as well as the 5 values at the adventure learning center:

1-) ផ្តោតការយកចិត្តទុកដាក់ សូមសង្កេត ស្តាប់ និងចូលរួមសកម្មភាពរបស់ក្រុមការងារ

Be present, look, listen and participate


I can do it!

3-) ទំនាក់ទំនង ផ្តល់ពត៏មាន ចែករំលែកគ្រប់កាកាលៈទេសៈ


4-) ដំណោះស្រាយដោយភាពច្នៃប្រឌិត! បញ្ហាកាន់តែធំគឺជាឱកាសកាន់តែច្រើនសម្រាប់ការស្វែងរកដំណោះស្រាយប្រកបដោយភាពច្នៃប្រឌិត។ ឧទាហរណ៍យើងចាប់ផ្តើមទស្សនីយភាពហ្វារនៅសៀមរាបដោយគ្មានថវិការ។ យើងរស់រានមានជីវិតហើយជោគជ័យ។ វាជាដំណោះស្រាយច្នៃប្រឌិត។

Creative solutions! The bigger the problem, the bigger the opportunity for finding creative solutions. ​For example we started Phare in Siem Reap without money. We survive and succeed. It was a creative solution.

5-) យើងគាំទ្រគ្នាទៅវិញទៅមក !

Support each other!

Siem Reap, April 5th, 2019

Personal and Career Development, Thoughts

សៀវភៅដែលខ្ញុំកំពុងអាននិងស្រឡាញ់ The book I am reading and loving

អរគុណលោកគ្រូដែលបានសរសេរនិងចែករំលែក ខ្ញុំចាំជានិច្ចពេលដែលខ្ញុំបានរៀនក្នុងវគ្គសិក្សារបស់លោកសាស្ត្រាចានៅសាកសវិទ្រាល័យកម្ពុជា​។​ Thank you for writing and sharing. I remember my time as your student in the University of Cambodia. You have been an inspiration to me.
Expression, Feel, Personal and Career Development, This and that here and there, Thoughts

ភាពខ្លាំងផ្ទាល់ខ្លួនក្នុងនាមជាសហគ្រិនPersonal Strength as an entrepreneur


ឈ្មោះរបស់គាត់គឺសិទ្ធត្ថ (ដូចឈ្មោះព្រះពុទ្ធ​)។ គាត់គឺជាសហគ្រិនដ៏ជោគជ័យនៅ​ប្រទេស​ឥណ្ឌា។ គាត់ជាមនុស្សល្អដែលមនុស្សទូទៅនិងបុគ្គលិកចូលចិត្តរាប់អាន។


គាត់បានសរសេរសារមុនសម្លាប់ខ្លួនថា : “ខ្ញុំបានបរាជ័យ។​ ខ្ញុំ សូមអភ័យទោសដែលធ្វើឱ្យអ្នកទាំងអស់គ្នាខកបំណង៕”

សូមមេត្តាយកចិត្តទុកដាក់លើសុខភាពផ្លូវចិត្ត។​ មនុស្សខ្លះមើលទៅដូចជារឹងមាំ គាត់ជាអ្នកជួយគេដោះស្រាយបញ្ហាទាំងឡាយ ប៉ុន្តែ គាត់បែរជាគ្មានមនុស្សដែលគាត់អាចចែករំលែលការលំបាក និងប្រឺក្សារកដំណោះស្រាយបញ្ហារបស់គាត់ទៅវិញ។ សូមយកចិត្តទុកដាក់លើខ្លួនឯងនិងមនុស្សដែលយើងស្រឡាញ់៕


Feel, Thoughts

តើជាកន្លែងណាដែលជាផ្ទះ? Where is home? អត្ថបទរបស់មិត្តខ្ញុំ, my friend’s article.

ពិន ភូណាំ ជា មិត្ត​ របស់ខ្ញុំ បានសរសេរ អត្ថបទ ជាភាសា អងគ្លេស ដែលមានចំណងជើងថា: ដែលជាកន្លែងដែលជាផ្ទះ?។​ ខ្ញុំសង្ឃឹមថាគាត់នឹងសរសេរអត្ថបទនេះ ជាភាសាខ្មែរនៅពេលក្រោយ។ សូមរីករាយក្នុងការអាន

My Friend PIN Phounam wrote this blogpost in English entitled: Where is home? I hope you enjoy reading her short home-coming trip experiences.